There are many ways to remember a loved one who has passed with gestures being small or big. We take a look at how to honour the memory of someone who has passed, including your beloved pets.
Honouring Someone Who Has Passed Away
Saying goodbye to someone is never easy. For a long time, our stiff British upper lip meant that we tended to not mark their passing with any kind of memorial other than a headstone or plaque.
Modern-day attitudes to grief and remembering loved ones is changing so much. Many more people are choosing to remember those that they have loved and lost with memorials.
If you are looking to create a special place for you, friends and relatives to share, here are five beautiful ideas;
1. A memorial garden
If you want a space that is accessible for others as well as members of the public, creating a memorial garden complete with a beautiful and hardwearing teak memorial benches to admire the pretty nodding blooms and soak in the scent of the flowers is a fitting tribute.
Death is part of the circle of life and we have come across some amazing ways people have acknowledged this when losing a loved one.
For example, giving out a plant or bulbs that flower in the season that you lost your loved one is a way of remembering them. Seeing the growth of something new reminds us that life goes on for the living but so too, do our memories of loved ones.
To help children process grief, inviting them to add personal accessories to the garden is one way of helping them to feel included. Why not paint pebbles and small stones in bright colours and cluster them for effect? Or write a message or their name on the pebble surface.
2. Beyond the final frontier…
It is a well-known phrase uttered during the five-year mission of the crew of award-winning film franchise, Star Trek.
And it has got people thinking, especially when it comes to spreading ashes. It may not be the memorial that suits you or your loved one, but it proves that thinking outside the box can be a cathartic process that helps process grief.
- Launching to space – it costs a few hundred pounds but there are people who have had their ashes launched into space. How comforting to know that your loved one is all around and enjoying the freedom of the exosphere.
- Fireworks – if your loved one enjoyed being the life and soul of the party, there are companies who create bespoke fireworks. A perfect way to launch your ashes of your loved one in a fun way that sits well with their personality.
There are by-laws that relate to where and how ashes can be scattered. For example, spreading ashes at sea must be done many miles offshore. Some councils have designated areas where ashes can be scattered. Always check before you make your gesture.
3. Commissions a piece of art
Art tells a story. And this is why it is becoming an increasingly popular way of honouring a loved one.
It isn’t just about portraiture either, unless that is what you want. Abstract art or an oil painting of their favourite place in the world is not only beautiful to hang on the wall but a gentle way of remembering your loved one.
We have also heard of people commission sculptures too, a delightfully unique way of marking the life of a loved one.
A unique blown glass sculpture or ornament is well within reach of most people’s budget. But again, the uniqueness of the final piece is perfect for marking the uniqueness of the individual too.
4. A light memorial
If you want to mark your loved one’s passing but don’t necessarily want a constant reminder, using light is the perfect way of spending time remembering your loved one.
The flickering flame of a candle is mesmerising. It lulls us into a gentle place where the mind can slow down from the day-to-day whirl as we reflect on life, love and the passing of someone dear to us.
Many people struggle to process grief in the immediate aftermath of a loved one’s passing. A candle can be the tool that allows someone to look into and deal with their grief.
5. Ash jewellery
For when you want to keep your loved one closer, ash jewellery is the perfect symbolic gesture and a physical means of literally keeping the person present and close by you.
There is a small clutch of businesses offering the service of using a small amount of your loved one’s ashes and creating a beautiful piece of bespoke jewellery. The ashes are included in a small piece of blown, solid glass that is then mounted as a ring or as a pendant necklace.
The effects and colours are unique and stunning, perfect for mirroring the character and personality of your loved one.
A fantastic way of keeping your loved one with you. You may choose not to wear the item every day. But knowing they are with you for important occasions is a beautiful feeling.